Call of the Coven

When I was leaving Port Huron in 2022, I was very lost and confused, so I bought an oracle deck sort of jokingly. It became something I would play around with to see what forms of insight I could gain for the upcoming steps. I played with various spreads and asked many different questions. As I played with cards, I started to understand what their message meant to me. For example, in that original deck, I learned that "Diligence" is a true delay in gratification and a need for understanding that the short term and long term are two very different things. Or "Going Forward" always means that things are not going to look the desired way, but progress will be made in a new and different direction than the one anticipate.

Since then, my deck collection has acquired other oracle decks and has spread into tarot decks. I have very specific decks that give me insight in very specific ways. It is fun for me to pull cards, wait some time and then reflect on what has happened and what they were showing me. It has been something I do for myself and others when feeling lost and at a cross-road. The appeal to me is that it feels like I am getting some form of insight during very bleak times. Many times, depending on the message, I cry because it hits the nerve of why I am asking the question. It truly is cathartic for me.

On the 20th, Zoë and I were standing in Deb's office. I asked if we could hold hands and pray for a snow day on the following Monday. Deb stood up and joined our circle, and Zoë started reciting the witches from Macbeth with Deb quickly joined in the chanting. I am less versed in the play, so I just stood laughing at the fact Deb joined us and that Zoë would start quoting the play in our cosplay of witches. (Deb really doesn't strike me as the witchy type, but I continue to be surprised by her and what my brain thinks she does and doesn't do. It makes me happy that she is willing to go along with our coven vibes.)

That Friday night, we ended up having a gathering of friends. We discussed so many topics, but it was all in community with each other. One of the topics was book clubs and why women are more inclined to join in them, and one hypothesis was that men are trained to have an aversion to community. It reminds me that I have joined more than one book club and found other likeminded women. They have been a form of coven for me when I have needed community. I have found women supporting women. It has consistently been an empowering experience for me, especially when I have felt alone. They have opened doors of connection that I have needed.

During our meeting, I showed them my mini cauldron that I bought for decoration because I saw someone online talk about theirs. Deb repeatedly asks me if I have used it yet, but I need to figure out what spells can be put together in my cauldron. There might be one for our dorm as harmony is going to be needed once we return from spring break. There might also be a protection spell as I head into uncertain waters this upcoming week. Either way, it is fun to craft spells and play around with the elements. I know this is something to be careful with, but I also think there is a call of my soul into this realm.

A different influencer shared that she sees many women being pulled into this witchy phase and was hypothesizing the reasons that so many women are waking up in this way. Part of it is that the divine feminine and its rage have been unleashed as a result of the bs that is being released. All the evil doings are being uncovered and women are rising up and taking back the power stolen under the toxic structure currently in place.

In the matriarchy, the priority is children. Women revolve their lives around caretaking, and it is completely opposed to the patriarchy that revolves around men. It would appear to me that there is a calling back for women to claim their power and structures that have been striped away in the process of creating the patriarchal society we are currently in.

As a result, I am gladly getting in line with this upcoming new world order. I am excited to see it be realized because this patriarchy is sad, especially for the men.

That male loneliness epidemic starts and ends there. Women are not finding the loneliness in the same ways because they are harvesting their own lives and building connections with other women to have support. They are holding a new standard and are expecting certain returns, and without them, they are choosing to build their life for themselves.

I saw a video where a man pointed out that two of the biggest songs right now are about women seeking men in the songs "WHERE IS MY HUSBAND!" by Raye and "Man I Need" by Olivia Dean. His advice to men was "just go out and flirt" because women are clearly looking for partners. However, that man with his advice missed the point that women aren't looking for just any man. They are looking for a specific man who is compatible with them. They are being deliberate in their search and don't want to settle for the sake of settling.

As someone who would love to be in a partnership, I have found it very hard to find someone compatible with me and who is willing to put in an effort to appreciate me. I have watched a lot of people settle for men who are terrible partners and co-parents. If I am going to build a life, I am going to do it with a very specific man or I am going to find love, support, and connection through the wonderful women in my life.

The ones who know I am struggling and ask me what they can do to help me. The ones who will offer me their weighted blanket they sleep with every night because I am anxious and need something to calm myself down. The ones who will text me that they love me and support me. The ones who encourage me to fully be myself.

I have heard the call of the coven, and I love being a part of groups where women support women. I love when women cheer each other on and help each other on the climb.

Women are a force to be reckoned with, and I am excited to see this power get unleashed!